eds’ blog

*Kiss on the stomach = "lets have sex"

*Kiss on the Forehead = "Forever you will be
mine"

*Kiss on the Ear = "I’m horny"

*Kiss on the Cheek = "We’re
friends"

*Kiss on the Hand = "I adore you"

*Kiss on the Neck = "We belong together"

*Kiss on the Shoulder = "I want you"

*Kiss on the Lips = "I love you"
OR "I want you"

*Holding Hands = "We can learn to love each
other"

*Slap on the Butt = "That’s mine"

*Playing with the Ear = "I can’t live without you"

*Holding on tight ="Don’t let go"

*Looking into each other’s Eyes = "Don’t let go"

*Playing with Hair on Head = "Tell me you love
me"

*Arms around the Waist = "I love you too much to
let go"

*Laughing while Kissing = "I am completley
Comfortable with you"

–Advice– *Dont ask for a kiss, take one. *If you
were thinking about someone while reading this,
you’re definitely in Love (or strong like).

Panalangin ko sa habang buhay
Makapiling ka makasama ka
Yan ang panalangin ko

At hindi papayag ang pusong ito
Mawala ka sa ‘king piling
Mahal ko iyong dinggin

Wala nang iba pang mas mahalaga
Sa tamis na dulot ng pag-ibig natin dal’wa
At sana nama’y makikinig ka
Kapag aking sabihing minamahal kita

Panalangin ko sa habang buhay
Makapiling ka makasama ka
Yan ang panalangin ko

At hindi papayag ang pusong ito
Mawala ka sa ‘king piling
Mahal ko iyong dinggin

Wala nang iba pang mas mahalaga
Sa tamis na dulot ng pag-ibig natin dal’wa
At sana nama’y makikinig ka
Kapag aking sabihing minamahal kita

Panalangin ko sa habang buhay
Makapiling ka makasama ka
Yan ang panalangin ko

At hindi papayag ang pusong ito
Mawala ka sa ‘king piling
Mahal ko iyong dinggin

Panalangin ko sa habang buhay
Makapiling ka makasama ka
Yan ang panalangin ko

At hindi papayag ang pusong ito
Mawala ka sa ‘king piling
Mahal ko iyong dinggin

Panalangin ko sa habang buhay
Makapiling ka makasama ka
Yan ang panalangin ko

- letting go of a person you’ve just learned to love
- reminiscing the good times you shared together
- shielding your heart to love somebody
- trying to hide what you really feel
- trying to hide the tears that involuntarily fall from your eyes
- loving a person too much
- giving up someone you never thought of giving up
- having the right love at the wrong time
- taking the risk to fall in love again
- hiding your relationship from someone else
- controlling your feelings to avoid hurting a friend
- Thinking of him every waking and sleeping moment knowing all the
while
that he never even thinks a single thought of you…
- letting go, because everytime you see the person, you only fall
deeper
- holding back only to find out when it’s too late, you both felt the
same
way, but were only scared to lose each other so much that you didn’t
let
the feelings out
- falling in love with someone you didn’t mean to fall in love with
- finding the perfect guy with only one problem, he doesn’t love you
- helping the one you love "make ligaw" to your friend
- seeing the one you love crying for someone else
- the waiting also hurts like hell
- Having to hear "… I’ve met someone"
- Agreeing to his wish to ‘just be friends’.
- asking his freedom back because ‘he’d be happier with her’
- Asking you to ‘forget that everything happened’ and be ‘normal’
friends
again.
- hearing that you’re treated as a little sister
- sharing his future plans for the girl with you
- You stopped being friends because his girlfriend asked him to.
- being denied in front of people
- telling you lies where he’d been when actually, he was with a ‘new
friend’ or an ‘old flame’
- he told you he’d be leaving you to return to his ex
- breaking someone’s heart
- Fighting for that one thing that would make you happy that is,holding on
to a person who can not guarantee you his commitment unless he fix
himself… then, you are left hanging for the moment… then he says, time will tell, but you still decided to hope in him and trust him…
- PRETENDING you’re OK when inside you’re dying
- PRETENDING to be strong…. and RECOGNIZING your weakness
- Lying in bed each night, thinking of that special person you can
never have…
- Being with someone you can’t actually love…
- Pretending you don’t love a person whom you actually love…
- Being in love…
- letting go even if you really don’t want to… having no right to
say you are hurting because it was your decision
- Seeing the person you love hurt because of you… and not being able to help that person…
- having the courage to say I LOVE YOU to the person you love and
finding
out afterwards that things will never be the same again when he doesn’t treat you with the same closeness as before
- having to face the fact that someone is capable of completely
destroying
the wall that you have set for yourself, leaving you weak and
vulnerable
- admitting that you love someone despite his imperfections
- finding out that the more you try to hate him, the more you end up
loving him, perhaps even more than before
- Realizing how stupid your mistakes was that led to your break-up.
- the thought that this guy, used to really love you and you loved him as well but you didn’t give enough and he gave up on you
- Sharing the one you love with SOMEBODY else…"
- Making a promise and realizing that when the time has come for that promise to be delivered, the commitment is no longer there.
- The hardest thing about love - believing it exists.
- After you’ve been hurt, learning to forgive, learning to trust and
love again.
- BUT THE HARDEST THING REALLY IS LEARNING TO LOVE YOURSELF. WE ALWAYS FORGET TO DO THIS. ALWAYS…

—–ANG MGA BABAE TALAGA OO by redrope

*grabe. usapang lalake* *sindi ng yosi* *hithit* *buga* Musta na, pare? Ako, okay lang. Eto. Nagmumuni-muni. Nag-iisip. Minsan talaga may mga bagay na hindi ko maintindihan. Ewan ko ba. *hinga ng malalim*

Bakit ba ganun pare, ilang beses ko na pinag-aralan pero lagi na lang lumalabas na parang kahit ’sang anggulo mo tingnan, hindi nagiging patas para sa mga lalake ang ilang bagay pagdating sa pagmamahal. *tingin sa stars* Minsan naiisip ko, alam kaya ng mga babae ang hirap ng lalake na gumawa ng first move para magtapat ng pagmamahal? E yung hirap na dinadaanan sa panliligaw at pagsuyo sa mahal nya? Ang feeling ng masaktan pag nabasted? Malamang-lamang siguro, hindi ano. Wala naman yata silang alam sa mga paghihirap naten e. Ang alam lang ata nila e mamili, manakit, at magsaya. Tingin mo? *tingin sa malayo* Lagi naman ganun. Una pa lang, lalake na ang naghihirap. Hassle saten ang panliligaw pero bago pa yun, kung ano pang diskarte ang gagawin naten para masabi naten sa kanila na mahal natin sila. Alam kaya nila yun? Mahirap magsabi na mahal mo na yung babae, diba? Tapos liligawan pa naten. Patutunayan na mahal nga sila. Susuyuin to-the-max.Maghahatid sa bahay, tutulungan, sasabayan, palalamunin, pagtyatyagaan, lahat na. Kulang na lang e pagsilbihan mo nang walang sahod. At ano ang kapalit? Well, depende sa trip nila. Oo tol, sa trip lang nila. Wala silang pake kesehodang mahal natin talaga sila. Basta ang alam nila, pag di nila tayo trip, isang malaking HINDE ang makukuha naten, kahit umiyak pa tayo ng dugo o lumuhod sa mga asing buu-buo. Para lang silang namimili ng damit na di man lang sinusukat bago ayawan. Kaya kahit mahal na mahal na mahal na mahal natin, sorry tayo. Hindi nila alam kung mahal mo sila. Kailangan mong maabot ang kanilang mga standards o uuwi ka lang na bad trip, iiling-iling, at minsan, luhaan. Wala tayong magagawa, marami silang alibi. "Hindi pa ‘ko ready eh..", "Sorry pero I think we should just be friends..", "Ha? Uhhmm..nagpapatawa ka ba? Hahahaha.." "Better luck next time na lang muna, okay lang?", "Give me a decade. Pag-iisipan ko muna..", "Para lang kitang kapatid e..", yaddah yaddah. Isang malaking pagsasaklob ng langit at lupa ‘yon para saten. *kuha ng bote ng beer* *lagok* *lunok* At hindi lang ‘yon tol. Sa pre-relationship stage pa lang yon. Pag sinagot na nila tayo, satin pa rin ang hassle. Tayo daw ang mga lalake kaya tayo ang hahawak ng relasyon. Tayo ang aayos kung may gulo; tayo ang dapat magpapakabait; tayo ang magtatyaga; tayo ang magiging devoted at faithful; tayo, tayo tayo. Sila? Ummm? Teka, isipin ko. Ayun. Sila ang magsasabi kung anong oras kayo dapat magmeet; sila ang magtetext ng mga mushy at kabalbalang texts; sila ang magdedemand sayo ng kung anu-ano; sila ang magbabawal; sila ang magsasabi kung kelan ka dapat mag-shave, kung kelan ka pwedeng tumawag sa bahay nila, kung kelan sila di dapat bad tripin dahil meron sila, at kung kelan ka korni. Ewan. Ganun ata talaga. *kuha ng bote ng beer* *lagok* *lunok* Hindi pa yun tapos pare, dahil dapat tayo ang bahala kung ano ang magiging takbo ng relasyon. Pag maganda, edi okay. Pag may problema, kasalanan naten. Haay buhay. Minsan talaga kung tutuusin sakit sila ng ulo. Kaya lang mahal naten kaya di na natin iniintindi yun. *hinga ng malalim* Pero alam mo tol, feeling ko mas sincere pa tayo magmahal sa kanila. Alam mo yun, iba tayo magmahal e. Hindi lang parang laru-laro lang. Seryoso. At kung magmahal man tayo, lubus-lubusan. Mas mature. Hindi yung parang pambata lang gaya nila na kesyo magseselos-selos, iiyak-iyak, iina-inarte, dadradrama, at kung anu-ano pa. Hindi lang kababawan. Ka-mushyhan. Kababaihan. Iba tayo pag nagmahal. *hinga ng malalim* *tingin sa malayo ulit* At ito pa ang pinakamasaklap. *singhot* Ang ending ng relasyon. Sa mga panahong ‘to, either sawa na sila, hindi na tayo trip, may nahanap na silang better saten, o kaya they need f*cking space and time muna. Bad trip no? Wala na naman tayong choice. Sila ang masusunod. At ano pa ang kasamang hassle don?Syempre wasak na ang imahe naten. Tayo ang lalabas na may kasalanan.Na playboy. Na nagpapaiyak. *iiling* Tayo siyempre ang mga antagonist at sila yung mga bidang inaapi at parang mga pusang iiyak-iyak. Ang ending: mag-ooffer sila ng "friendship" kuno matapos tayong pagsawaan, lahat ng gifts naten nasa kanila, sawi tayo sa pag-ibig, "player" na ang image naten, at higit sa lahat, mag-iisip kung papaano ipagpapatuloy ang buhay. Maiiwan tayong tulala, mag-iisip kung saan nagkamali, mamomroblema sa pag-aadjust sa pagiging single, at di na naman makakatulog. Haay buhay. Ang hirap maging lalake. Lagi ka na lang naiiwan sa ere. Ano? Hindi ka na nagsalita? In-love ka no? Ako, kamusta? Eto.Yoyosi-yosi. Bubuntong-buntong hininga. Titingin-tingin sa bituin. Mumuni-muni. Lalagok-lagok ng alak.

Ang mga babae talaga, oo.

ANG MGA LALAKE TALAGA, OO (tugon kay redrope) by xristel

Ano ba itong si redrope? Kaming mga babae na naman ang nakita. Lalake, agrabyado. Lalake, kinakawawa. Lalake, hindi maintindihan. Hmmp, parang masyado yatang nagisa ang mga kabaro ko. Tungkol sa pagiging patas sa ngalan ng pag-ibig, kami naman ang laging talo a, hindi kayo. Kami ang laging lugi, kami ang lagging nawawalan at iniiwan. Kapag ngumiti ka na ng konti, nag-ayos ng konti pagkakamalan ka nang malandi. Hindi pangseryosohang relasyon. Pag hindi naman nag ayos, sus ikukumpara ka naman sa iba( buti pa si ganon at ganyan ) inaayos ang sarili, samantalang ikaw, mukha ng Losyang. Marinig lang nila na malakas kang magsalita, palengkera ka na. T.O. kagad sa kanila iyon. Mahilig silang tumingin sa mga babaeng sexy manamit, kulang nalang makita na kaluluwa. Pero kapag babaeng seryosohin at gustong ligawan dapat disente, dapat mala-anghel ang mukha, dapat mukhang inosente. Tapos kami pa raw ang mahilig mamili? Parang baliktad yata? Ok, ayan nanliligaw na si lalake. Dapat pakipot ka para suyuin ka,para habulin ka pa lalo. Kapag hindi ka naman nagpakipot "easy to get" & "cheap naman ang tingin sa iyo. Hindi ka na seseryosohin. Sino bang may sabing magpaalila kayo, di naman namin hawak ang buhay niyo. Natural lang na magtiis kayo, may gusto kayo sa amin eh. Kapag nakuha niyo na iyon wala na lahat ng mga paghihirap niyo, babaliktad na ang sitwasyon kami naman ang mamromroblema. Para lang kayong may gustong bilhin na bagay. Upang mabili ito kailangan munang magsakripisyo, magtipid, magtiis. Pag nabili na at mapagsawaan wala na, balewala na. Diyan ka na sa tabi-tabi. "Tawagan nalang kita pag trip ko o kaya’y pag may gusto akong ipagawa sa iyo." Ano pa ba? E di sinagot mo na diba. Utang na loob pa natin yun. Dahil naghirap daw sila sa panliligaw dapat masuklian natin iyon ng higit pa. Sa umpisa kailangan malambing ka, maayos at laging magsisilbi sa kanya. Ayaw daw nilang humawak ng relasyon, pero kapag ikaw naman ang nagmando, aba, masasakal naman. Sasabihin pa sa iyo "demanding" ka. at Nang-uunder Meron ka pang maririnig na "I think we need space" at kung anu-ano pang ek-ek. Sino rin may sabing di dapat kami magpakabait, maging devoted at faithful? Kapag kami ang sumaway niyang mga iyan, iba na ang tingin sa amin. Malandi na kami, haliparot, pakawala, makikay at kung anu-ano pang mga bansag ang itatawag sa amin Kapag kayo gumawa noon, ok lang. Lalake kayo eh, macho kayo pag ginawa niyo yon. Kaya kami, walang magawa. Magpapakaburo at magpapakamadre nalang. Kapag nagloko na kayo ano pa bang magagawa namin? Eh di iiyak nalang. Wala namang ibang magagawa eh. Tungkol naman sa tinatawag niyong pagdedemand namin. Hindi kami nagdedemand! Karapatan lang namin iyon. Karapatan namin na lambingin niyo kami, icheck at ipakita s a amin na mahal niyo kami. Hindi rin ibig sabihin na mas sincere kayo sa amin. Seryoso rin naman kami ah. At ang maturity wala yan sa edad. Mas maaga nga kaming magmature sa inyo. Ang isang 19 year old na lalake eh, isip 15 pa yun. It follows iyan sa lahat ng age group. Mas mataas pa nga kung minsan ang pagbawas ng level of maturity. Kayo na ang mag-math. Pati yung pag-iyak namin pinupuntirya niyo. Kesyo drama daw, es sa we are hurting badly, Diba kapag umiyak ka nagbuhos ka ng emosyon diyan. Ano tingin niyo sa amin mga artista?!Kayo siguro ang artista, kasio you try to hide your feelings, kahit na masyado na kayo nasasaktan, siyempre Machismo ang dating ika nga " Boys don’t cry" Alam niyo iyon? Yun bang kulang nalang ay lumuha ka na ng dugo, pero hindi ka pa rin papansinin. Sasabihan ka pang tigilan na ang pagdradrama."DRAMA BA YUN!!! SA NASAKTAN TALAGA KAMI!!! Hindi nila kami maiintindihan kapag nagseselos kami.Bakit naman kami magseselos kung wala kaming nakikita? at kung walang dahilan. Mas iba kaming magmahal. Mas masarap. Kapag natapos na ang lambingan, eh di siyempre iwanan blues na.Kami pa raw ang nagsawa, kami pa raw ang nagtritrip lang. Sino ba ang lumalayas kapag may nakita nang bago, sino ba ang mayabang, sino ba ang nagmamalaki? Kami ba? Kami ang walang choice. Kasi ang babae pag sinabing "break na tayo" lambingin lang iyan ng konti balikan blues na iyan. Kapag ang lalake ang umayaw, pucha, bahala ka diyan. Kahit mag-tambling ka pa sa harap niya. Wa-epek. Umiyak ka ng bato.Wa-epek. Tsk, tsk, tsk. Tapos sila pa raw ang kawawa. Post-break up, mahal pa ng babae si lalaki. Sasamantalahin ni lalaki. Magpapagawa ng kung anu-ano. Naaalala ka lang kapag may kailangan sa iyo. Kapag pumangit ka after the break up, magpapasalamat sila na iniwan ka nila. Kapag gumanda ka naman, ipagkakalat nila sa buong sangkatauhan na naging girlfriend ka niya. Sala sa init sala sa lamig talaga. Ano ba namang buhay to? Ang hirap ding maging babae ano. Kala nila laging sila nalang. Lagi rin kaming naiiwan sa ere. In-love din kami.

Ang mga lalake talaga, oo.

LOVE knows no reasons, love knows no lies, love defies all reasons, love has no eyes. But love is not blind — LOVE sees, but it doesn’t mind. –

Female Version (ne-yo Exgirlfriend)

I gotta change the station that i have
Cause all i hear is you
It jus keeps reminding me
Of all the thingz we used to do
And i know that i should turn
Off the radio
But it’s the only place i hear your voice anymore

(it’z rediculous)
It’z been months since i’ve spoken to u
(you aint keep in touch)
Dont know why it came to this no
(but enough is enough)
No more walkin round wit ma head down
I dont wanna be a fool
Cryin over you

(chorus)
If your so sick of love songs
So tired of tears
You said you loved me
Why aint you here?
Im so sick of your love songs
So sad and slow
But i just cant turn off the radio

Gotta fix that calendar i have
That’z marked july 16th
Cause it seemz like you forgot
That waz our annaversary
When i heard your song it
Made it hard to erase your memory
Now when i heard ur songs i noe it’s best for me
I cant believe that your

So sick of love songs
So tired of tears
You said u loved me
Why aint you here?
Im so sick of your love songs
So sad and slow
But i just cant turn off the radio

Ooh
(now that im gone)
Now that im gone
(i wanna be left alone)
Ooh
And everytime i see your smile
It’z lookin at our child
You shood noe
Ooh y cant you move on?

(chorus)
If your so sick of love songs
So tired of tears
You said u loved me
Why aint you here?
Im so sick of your love songs
So sad and slow
But i just cant turn off the radio
(i just cant turn off the radio)

If your so sick of love songz (so sick of love songz)
So tired of tears (so tired of tears)
You said u loved me
Why aint you here (yeaaaah) (y aint you here???)
Im so sick of your love songz
So sad and slo (oo oh)
But i just cant turn off the radio
(i just cant turn off the radio)

(chorus)
If your so sick of love songz
So tired of tears
You said u loved me
Why aint you here?
Im so sick of your love songz
So sad and slow
But i just cant turn off the radio
(i jus cant turn off the radio)
I just cant turn off the radio

by All Saints

I’m moving I’m coming
Can you hear, what I hear
It’s calling you my dear
Out of reach (Take me to my beach)
I can hear it, calling you
I’m coming not drowning
Swimming closer to you (Take me to my beach)

TQ

R. Simmons/J. Moore/K. Walker/L. Smith)

I was just a young boy, livin’ in the hub city
Eastside compton G
Back in the days when Ice cube and Eazy had every Nigga
Talking ’bout boy you can’t fuck with me
Remember Ice T had power, hearing gunshots lickin’ by the hour,
When Too Short bumped in every Supersport
And taught us all how to ride for the West Coast

CHORUS:
To my peoples if you with me - where you at
Throw your dubs in the air - and wave ‘em like you just don’t care
From L.A. to the Bay - what you say - all day…everyday…any damn day
Take a look around, we got the whole world locked down
Going on and on, it don’t stop…won’t stop…can’t stop
Either ride or die - that’s why I put it down for the Westside

Didn’t seem that long ago, we were stealing 40’s out the liquor store
Mama started tripping so it’s time to go
Up to the park with the locsta’s
Everybody broke smokin’ roaches
DJ Quick was the shit had every nigga claiming he was from the CPT
Ya’ll remember one-time tried to clown
We had to burn this bitch on down

BRIDGE:
One time for my niggas in incarceration
I blaze a dime with you for having lots of patience
Two times fro my sista’s at the county building,
I got some Westsde love for al you ghetto children
Three times for my niggas that done passed away
I tip some gin for you and pray for betta days
One day everything’s gonna be fine
But until that day my only reply is…
WESTSIDE TILL I DIE

(Repeat Chorus)

From Crenshaw to Foothill Blvd.
All I see are Lo Lo’s and mob cars - Dayton’s and five stars
All the true hobs is hittin’ switches
With all the finest riches of course the bombest bitches
Don’t get it twisted
Ask me what’s a real G
Show me a nigga scrapping back against the wall until his knuckles bleed
Screaming death to all our enemies and those who don’t believe
WEST COAST LIVIN’ BE THE SHIT TO ME!!!

(Repeat Bridge)

(Repeat Chorus)
TQ

R. Simmons/J. Moore/K. Walker/L. Smith)

I was just a young boy, livin’ in the hub city
Eastside compton G
Back in the days when Ice cube and Eazy had every Nigga
Talking ’bout boy you can’t fuck with me
Remember Ice T had power, hearing gunshots lickin’ by the hour,
When Too Short bumped in every Supersport
And taught us all how to ride for the West Coast

CHORUS:
To my peoples if you with me - where you at
Throw your dubs in the air - and wave ‘em like you just don’t care
From L.A. to the Bay - what you say - all day…everyday…any damn day
Take a look around, we got the whole world locked down
Going on and on, it don’t stop…won’t stop…can’t stop
Either ride or die - that’s why I put it down for the Westside

Didn’t seem that long ago, we were stealing 40’s out the liquor store
Mama started tripping so it’s time to go
Up to the park with the locsta’s
Everybody broke smokin’ roaches
DJ Quick was the shit had every nigga claiming he was from the CPT
Ya’ll remember one-time tried to clown
We had to burn this bitch on down

BRIDGE:
One time for my niggas in incarceration
I blaze a dime with you for having lots of patience
Two times fro my sista’s at the county building,
I got some Westsde love for al you ghetto children
Three times for my niggas that done passed away
I tip some gin for you and pray for betta days
One day everything’s gonna be fine
But until that day my only reply is…
WESTSIDE TILL I DIE

(Repeat Chorus)

From Crenshaw to Foothill Blvd.
All I see are Lo Lo’s and mob cars - Dayton’s and five stars
All the true hobs is hittin’ switches
With all the finest riches of course the bombest bitches
Don’t get it twisted
Ask me what’s a real G
Show me a nigga scrapping back against the wall until his knuckles bleed
Screaming death to all our enemies and those who don’t believe
WEST COAST LIVIN’ BE THE SHIT TO ME!!!

(Repeat Bridge)

(Repeat Chorus)

by Rev. Ronald McFadden

If you’re not married yet, share this with a friend. If you are married, share it with your spouse or other married couples and reflect on it.

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye." Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don’t let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs.

Keep your eyes open, and don’t fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren’t really important.

Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you’ve got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together. Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can’t take someone to the altar to alter him or her.

You can’t make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won’t find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship! Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

What keeps a relationship strong? Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice message on the voicemail or send a nice email. Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can’t always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment.

Don’t try to control one another. Learn each other’s family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless. Don’t put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.

The difference between ‘United’ and ‘Untied’ is where you put the i.

My husband is an engineer by profession. I love him for his steady nature, and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders. Three years of courtship and now, two years into marriage, I would have to admit that I am getting tired of it! The reasons of me loving him before has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness. I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings. I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy.

My husband is my complete opposite. His lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage had disheartened me about love. One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.

"Why?" he asked, shocked and bemused.

I answered back "I am tired, there are no reasons for everything in the world!"

He kept silent the whole night, seems to be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times. And my feeling of disappointment only increased. Here was a man who can’t even express his predicament, what else can I hope from him? And finally he asked me, "What can I do to change your mind?" Somebody said it right, it’s hard to change a person’s personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him. Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered, "Here is the question, if you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind.

"Let’s say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both sure that picking the flower will cause your death, will you do it for me?"

He said: "I will give you your answer tomorrow."

My hopes just sank by listening to his response. I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting, underneath a coffee cup, on the dining table near the front door, that goes….

"My dear, I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further."
This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.

"When you use the computer you always mess up the software programs and you cry in front of the screen, I have to save my fingers so that I can help restore the programs.
"You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you. "You love traveling but always lose your way in a new place, I have to save my eyes to show you the way.
"You always have the cramps whenever your "good friend" approaches every month, I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.
"You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by coughs and colds. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.
"You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes, I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help clip your nails, and help remove those annoying white hairs.
"So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand and tell you the color of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young face.
"Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do. I could not pick that flower yet, and die."

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting, and as I continue on reading.

"Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fruit juice."

I rushed to pull open the door and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands a bottle of strawberry juice and loaf of fresh bread bought from a nearby bakery.

Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone. That’s life, and love. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.

Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has never been a model; it could be the dullest and boring form.
Flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands. And that’s our marriage life.

Love, not words win arguments!

There was once this guy who is very much in love with his girl. This romantic guy folded 1,000 pieces of paper cranes as a gift to his girl. Although, at that time he was just a small fry in his company, his future didn’t seem too bright, they were very happy together. Until one day, his girl told him she was going to Paris and will never come back. She also told him that she cannot visualize any future for the both of them, so they went their own ways there and then…Heartbroken, the guy agreed. But when he regained his confidence, he worked hard day and night, slogging his body and mind just to make something out of himself. Finally with all the hard work and the help of friends, this guy had set up his own company .. You never fail until you stop trying. One rainy day, while this guy was driving, he saw an elderly couple sharing an umbrella in the rain walking to some destination. Even with the umbrella, they were still drenched. It didn’t take him long to realize they were his girl’s parents. With a heart in getting back at them, he drove slowly beside the couple, wanting them to spot him in his luxury sedan. He wanted them to know that he wasn’t the same any more; he had his own company, car, condo, etc. He made it! What he saw next confused him, the couple was walking towards a cemetery, and so he got out of his car and followed…and he saw his girl, a photograph of her smiling sweetly as ever at him from her tombstone and he saw his paper cranes right beside her… Her parents saw him. He asked them why this had happened. They explained, she did not leave for France at all. She was ill with cancer. She had believed that he will make it someday, but she did not want to be his obstacle… therefore she had chosen to leave  him. Just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have. She had wanted her parents to put his paper cranes beside her, because, if the day
comes when fate brings him to her again…he can take some of those back with him… Once you have loved, you will always love. For what’s in  your mind may
escape but what’s in your heart will remain forever. The guy just wept…The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside her knowing you can’t have her, see her or be with her ever again………hope you understand.

Find time to realize that there is one person who means so much to you, for you might wake up one morning losing that person who youthought meant nothing to you.

KINDNESS Pays !

One day, a poor boy who was selling goods from door to door to pay his way through school, found he had only one thin dime left, and he was hungry.
He decided he would ask for a meal at the next house. However, he lost his nerve when a lovely young woman opened the door. Instead of a meal he asked for a drink of water. She thought he looked hungry so brought him a large glass of milk. He drank it slowly, and then asked, "How much do I owe you?" "You don’t owe me anything," she replied "Mother has taught us never to accept payment for a kindness." He said… "Then I thank you frommy heart."

As Howard Kelly left that house, he not only felt; stronger physically, but his faith in God and man was strong also. He had been ready to give up and quit. Years later that young woman became critically ill. The local doctors were baffled. They finally sent her to the big city, where they called in specialists to study her rare disease. Dr. Howard Kelly was called in for the consultation. When he heard the name of the town she came from, a strange light filled his eyes. Immediately he rose and went down the hall of the hospital to her room. Dressed in his doctor’s gown he we nt in to see her. He recognized her at once. He went back to the consultation room determined to do his best to save her life. From that day he gave special attention to the case. After a long struggle, the battle was won. Dr. Kelly  requested the business office to pass the final bill to him for approval. He looked at it, then wrote something on the edge and the bill was sent to her room. She feared to open it, for she was sure it would take the rest of her life to pay for it all. Finally, she looked, and something  caught ; her attention on the side as She read these words…..

"Paid in full with one glass of milk." (Signed) Dr. Howard Kelly. Tears of joy flooded her eyes as her happy heart prayed:  "Thank You,GOD, that Your love has spread abroad through human hearts and hands."